Obsessing over a person, situation or thing keeps you frustrated, distracted and resistant to trust that everything is as it needs to be.
When you resist the existence of what is, then you stand in the way of what can be.
Where in your thinking do you need to let go and surrender? Is there a family member that is not doing things the way you think they should? Or what about a colleague who keeps ending up in the same challenges? Detaching with love from those we care about can be interesting to say the least. When we obsess on the outcome we miss very valuable lessons along the journey.
I host two women’s retreat from our home each year. My husband decided to rebuild our deck before my Spring retreat recently. He is a gifted handy man. His schedule is quite different then mine however. It was 7 days before the retreat and it was crystal clear the deck would not be finished. My various attempts to move the project along failed miserably. I worked beside him, I did other chores to free him up so he could “get down and complete the deck” and we had a few heated exchanges over it. Needless to say the deck was not fully completed by the time my retreat came. Three days before I decided that I would not let a deck get in the way of my happy marriage. This was definitely not my proudest moment when I went from resistance, manipulation, control to full out surrender. Surrendering wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. In fact in that moment I made a simple decision to be the person I was meant to be and let it go and be free. The perfectionism of wanting everything just perfect just slipped away.
So the morale of the story is, when you choose to be free by surrendering the outcome magic happens. In the big picture, isn’t it happiness we are all striving for?